Black Moon Lilith in 7th House: Transforming Relationship Patterns

Lilith in the 7th house indicates challenges with the themes governed by the 7th house which is ruled by the sign of Libra and planet Venus. Libra, as pictured by the scales of justice, wants everything to be fair and right. Sadly, the harsh reality is that life isn’t always fair, and people, even less so!

For those with Lilith in this house, conflict with people close to them may prevail. Nevertheless, with effort and resolution, their challenges can be worked through and eventually, these people may excel in forming positive connections with others in both a personal and professional capacity.

Romantic Relationships and Marriage

You may feel as if you’ve got a knack for picking the wrong partners. One of the reasons for this could be because you have a habit of idealising others without paying enough attention to who they really are. Once you realize that your new friend, partner, or business partner is someone quite different to who you thought they were, you’re able to acknowledge that you’d been viewing them through rose tinted glasses.

In some cases, your relationships may exhibit signs of co-dependancy. You might feel as if you can’t go through life without a partner, leading you to stay in relationships that no longer serve you. Of course, not everyone with Lilith here will have a negligent, indifferent or harmful partner, but this placement does suggest unrest in the romance department, at least until some inner work is done.

You might be especially drawn to people who are very, very different from you. Your partner could be a highly individualistic person. While you may not be too physically affectionate with one another, you feel connected in a special and meaningful way but too often, this seems to be accompanied with emotional difficulty.

At times, you could feel oppressed in your relationships because you’re always helping to make the goals of your partner come true. You may feel selfish if you assert yourself by trying to discuss what YOU want and need with your partner.

Speaking for all of us, though, as we grow older and gain more life experience and wisdom, we naturally become more adept at letting others know what we need and and want. We become more skilled at setting healthy boundaries. We tolerate less poor behavior and can walk away from relationships that aren’t working anymore. So, things may naturally change as you continue to age.

Business Partnerships

At work or in business, you may attract clever and ambitious yet unpleasant and unscrupulous people. Or perhaps their ideologies may also strongly clash with yours. In some cases, having an unsuitable business partner can mean the loss of the business unless someone else can be brought in to rescue it.

You may prefer to work alone because because time and time again, working with others seems to be difficult for one reason or another. Maybe you just don’t see eye to eye with each other or you feel like you’ll be taken advantage of, shamed, or bullied in some way.

In certain business partnerships, you might feel like you need to go along with whatever your partner wants. They could even tell you what to do and you’ll just oblige without hesitation. Consequently, people might see you as less powerful or at least, less assertive, in the business as a result, which is probably not the image you want to convey!

Legal Matters

During the course of their lives, they may have to put up with an unfair legal claim against them. For instance, if they’re involved in a business, they may find that the contract they signed was unfair somehow and a legal case may ensue as a result.

Seeing as these people really desire to have more control over their lives and be accept less poor behavior from others, they may find themselves embroiled in a legal battle with someone who was once close to them. For example, if they marry someone who they initially thought was wonderful but then found themselves having to put up with their selfish behavior in order to make the relationship work. Once they realise they can’t contend with it anymore and divorce them, a legal battle over assets or children may start.

Of course, legal matters are typically incredibly stressful. Anyone whose experienced legal problems has my sympathy. However, if court cases can be avoided in the first instance, I believe that it’s generally better to strive for that, especially those with this placement who may attract difficult people.

Projection of Self Onto Others

There may be a tendency to project certain aspects of yourself onto others which can heavily influence your interpersonal dynamics. Fears, desires and unacknowledged personality traits that you struggle to accept may be projected onto partners, friends and others who are close to you.

This may sound a bit complicated but it’s really quite simple. For instance, if someone with this placement fears their partner might leave, they might project these emotions onto their partner, perceiving those qualities in their partner even if they aren’t actually present. Normally, this isn’t often done consciously. Nevertheless, this dynamic can create tension and misunderstandings within their relationships.

This behavior can be confusing and with this placement, it can also go both ways as you may find that people often project their thoughts and feelings onto you. Working towards a more balanced and self-aware approach to relationships can contribute to healthier and more mutually fulfilling connections.

Open Enemies and Adversaries

If they experience problems, including legal issues, particularly in business, they’re unlikely to openly talk about them. They may find their problems very embarrassing or uncouth and fear being shamed or seen as unsuccessful or unintelligent by if they dare to discuss them.

Social Harmony and Cooperation

On the one hand, you may deeply desire positive social connections and relationships. You place a lot of value on cooperation and aim for a balanced and fair exchange with your significant other. But, on the other hand, you could feel compelled to challenge social norms and values and may alienate yourself a little as a result.

Diplomacy and Negotiation

As much as you admire people who are diplomatic and able to negotiate well with others, you might feel like you’ll never be able to do the same. Perhaps you were told early in life something along the lines of not knowing how to speak to people. You may have felt ashamed of this and convinced yourself that you’ll never be able to be diplomatic or even communicate to others in social or professional settings.

Changing the Story

In spite of everything these people may have endured, the narrative of relationships and partnerships can absolutely change for the better. Acceptance and perhaps also forgiveness, if it’s warranted, are key components to the process of letting go and moving on.

Becoming confident about setting boundaries and stating what you want and what you don’t want in a partner and in a relationship and then sticking to those standards, should help you attract more suitable partners.

About Black Moon Lilith in Astrology

Lilith in astrology usually refers to the most commonly recognized and discussed Lilith which is Black Moon Lilith (BML). Natal Lilith represents one’s greatest challenges in life. The house indicates the areas of life you may experience great difficulty in, while indicates the personality traits you struggle with. Some astrologers don’t like to include the BML in their birth chart readings, however, I think that it’s an important part of the chart.