Venus Conjunct Descendant Synastry: Falling For the One Who Sees You
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This aspect in a synastry chart can shape the dynamic of a relationship at the most profound level. Your Descendant or DC is one of the most important angles in your chart — it’s the one I get asked the most about — next to the Midheaven (MC), Imum Coeli sign (IC), and of course your Ascendant (AC) otherwise known as the rising sign or first house.
Your AC essentially stands for your top personality layer while your DC (the seventh house) represents the energetic core of your relationships, and you can find it opposite your Ascendant. So, for example, since I have Gemini rising, Sagittarius, the sign which sits opposite Gemini on the zodiac wheel, is in my seventh house (Descendant).
When graceful planet Venus forms a conjunction with the DC in a synastry chart, emotions get intense and the connection reaches a deep level that supports the couple through their challenges. If your Venus and your lover’s DC (or the other way around) form a synastry conjunction, keep reading to manifest the best from this truly wonderful synastry aspect.
A Beautiful Yin-Yang Love Bond
With this aspect, you might feel like your partner has everything you could dream of in a romantic companion. You complete each other and feel at home within this relationship. I think of these couples as energetic yin-yang unions because what is missing in one partner is often found in the other. There is a beautifully symbiotic energy flow within the relationship that offers both partners a sense of completion and belonging.
But this yin-yang bond is not always obvious on the surface. The natives might not even be a match made in heaven at first sight. However, the more they get to know each other better, their high level of compatibility becomes apparent. For instance, I had a client with Leo rising and Aquarius in the 7th house with this aspect. She was so unsure of her now husband when she started dating him that she considered breaking things off. He was very Aquarian in nature and found it hard to show his true feelings or become too attached to her. Thankfully, though, they both stuck with it, got married a few years later and now have a wonderful little family! They seem blissfully happy with each other.
Emotional Dynamics
Romantic Expressions
This relationship is all about emotional dynamics. The energetic bond is so strong that it finds an intense way to manifest in the couple’s daily life as well as in their most passionate, intimate moments. I recommend that you also look at any aspects involving the Moon to get a more complete picture of this couple’s emotional dynamics, because the Moon represents our emotional make-up.
Both people here wish to express their emotions in sensual and romantic ways. The Venus person tends to be even more intense when it comes to romanticism. They express their love through grand gestures and profound declarations that flatter and uplift their partner.
Venus also brings a sensibility that encourages romantic approaches and invites vulnerability. Both see each other as the perfect match and they don’t hold back on expressing how they feel for each other. They are inclined to surprise their lover with very romantic vacations or dates while their partner might prefer an intimate evening at home. Either way, there’s no shortness of sweetness and affection in this relationship!
Complementary Love Languages
The love languages of these partners tend to complete each other. They seem to know exactly what the other person needs and expects which helps them create a harmonious connection. The DC partner knows that their Venus lover likes to give, but also receive, affection and they often surprise them with creative or passionate declarations of their love.
They know when the Venus partner needs reassurance or feels insecure and prevents such situations from occurring if possible. Similarly, the Venus person aims to increase their partner’s self-esteem and confidence by projecting their idolizing energy onto them. The DC partner might be a bit introverted but Venus knows how to shine its light of joy and optimism over them to coax them out of their shell.
Idolization and Passion
The intimate life of this couple is extraordinarily passionate, intense, and based on mutual idolization. They’re perfect in each other’s eyes and they show that through their various loving gestures. Both partners like to flirt and seduce each other through small gestures every time they’re together.
Venus brings a certain curiosity in this relationship that invites both partners to explore their fantasies without restriction. Because the DC represents the core energy of one’s personality and Venus highlights the best pleasures and aspects of life, they don’t abstain from exploring their desires in the most fulfilling ways!
Communication Styles
Diplomacy and Calmness
The Venus person has a diplomatic and calm way of talking, which the DC person reciprocates. They might not always see eye to eye, even on important life matters, but their differences are unlikely to create arguments.
This conjunction brings a lot of tact and kindness that supports every interaction between the two partners. They’re more preoccupied with having a healthy and fulfilling relationship than being right, which helps keep their egos in check and cooperate as a team.
However, when things get heated up and conversations might become too intense, the Venus person is likely to be the one who wishes to quickly reach a compromise. Venus represents peace and joy, which are key elements this couple uses to overcome every difficult conversation.
Mutual Compassion and Empathy
This aspect highlights the level of compassion in this relationship. The Venus person seems to always be aware of the impact their words could have over their partner, and therefore, choose them wisely. They empathize with each other in both moments of happiness and struggles. This type of energy flow helps the couple support each other but also share joy as a team. They have the same goals and focus on the greater good of their relationship more than their individuality.
Conflict Avoidance
One of the greatest blessings of this bond is that conflict has no place here. The DC partner refuses to let things sink to a negative level and tries to prevent conflict as soon as it starts. But it’s important to be aware of the side effects of this peaceful approach. By focusing so strongly on peace and harmony, important matters might be left undiscussed. Both partners might choose to avoid certain topics rather than risk an argument. Maintaining peace is of course important but clear and open communication is also healthy and vital for a relationship to withstand the test of time.
Non-judgmental Conversations
Just like there’s no room for conflict in this relationship, there’s no space for judgmental opinions either. The DC partner even tolerates the sides of Venus they don’t understand. The Venus person might be more social and open to new experiences than their partner, but this authenticity is encouraged in this relationship rather than limited. I’ve also noticed that they rarely impose their thoughts or perspectives on their partner either, because they love them just the way they are, with their unique differences. In this relationship, each partner sees these differences as completely to their nature rather than a reason to argue and judge.
Advantages of This Aspect
Perfect Energy for Shared Life Goals
Both partners tend to have the same energy and vision when it comes to their life goals. They know when and how to support and complete each other in such a way that they form an invincible team. The Descendant person might be the strategic one, who’s not afraid to lay down the plans while the Venus person is the one who makes things happen.
Venus brings a lot of inspiration and a strong sense of beauty, which helps the couple enjoy each stage of their journey together. Working with each other doesn’t even seem like work but more like productive quality time. I think that this couple seems perfectly well suited to start a business together or thrive within the same professional field.
A Dreamlike Relationship
This relationship seems almost surreal in its beauty and intensity. Venus colors it with its expansive nature, sensuality and endless possibilities. For the DC person, it could be a once in a lifetime experience as they finally meet someone who sees them and loves them for who they really are.
They also identify everything they lack in themselves in their Venus partner which fuels their love and admiration for them. It may feel as if the Universe has sent them their perfect other half. They see the idealized version of romance, love, and emotional security in their partner. They know from the beginning that this is the sort of connection that can shape the rest of their life and bring them closer to their ideal image of happiness.
Unique Mutual Understanding
Because the Descendant is so close to the core energy of this relationship, both partners might experience a type of mutual understanding that they can’t easily develop with others. They don’t just recognize each other’s soul energy but understand the root of their thoughts and feelings.
For instance, the Venus partner might know what their lover is feeling or thinking before they speak. Once they start sharing past experiences, they feel like no one could ever get to know them as well as their partner. And this could be true!
Potential Challenges and Obstacles
Over-Idealization
Because their emotional bond is so strong and deep, they might over-idealize each other and the relationship. While there is a high degree of compatibility, a sense of realism still needs to be maintained. No relationship is perfect, even if it might appear as such. Everyone has their own unique set of qualities and weaknesses. And this couple has to focus on both sides of their lover, not just the wonderful one!
Codependency
Codependency comes almost as a natural consequence of this level of compatibility. They may feel like they need each other very early on and may seek approval from their partner more often than it’s needed. The risk here is that they might lose their individuality if they rely too much on their person. The Venus partner in particular needs to focus on their own needs and goals too, and not become consumed with pleasing their partner all the time. A healthy relationship is always based on two happy individuals who strive to be the best versions of themselves. And it’s much better to give from a place of inner abundance.
Risk of Insecurity
Since this conjunction is in opposition, there may be a risk of insecurity, especially at the beginning of the relationship when neither partner is familiar with each other on a deep level. The DC partner could feel insecure when their lover acts like a social butterfly, which attracts a lot of attention and admiration. But once they get to know each other well, their insecurities are likely to disappear and they’ll be able to rely on their solid bond.
Need for Practicality
This relationship might need a practical touch from Saturn so I recommend that you also look for any aspects involving this planet. Venus and the Descendant might not cover the practical, ordered and rational aspects of life that are so very important for keeping any couple on the right track. They have ambitious plans as Venus highlights optimism and expansion but plans also require some of the wisdom, perseverance and maturity of Saturn to bring them to fruition– at least, in my personal opinion.
Building a Better Emotional Connection
If you have this synastry aspect, the best way to improve your relationship is by focusing on balance. Boundaries are very important in this relationship as both partners need to maintain a healthy balance between their authentic selves and the energetic vibration of their bond. The relationship shouldn’t absorb your energies but unify them in a way that both of you thrive on a personal and professional level.
