Venus in the Houses in Synastry: The Backbone of How We Love

Planet Venus in astrology represents how we love; how we give and receive it. It’s what we are instinctually drawn towards and what we truly value. Not only in a romantic context but generally.

Here’s a foundational list to summarise the essence of this beautiful planet: 

• Love and attraction
• Pleasure and enjoyment 
• Beauty 
• The arts, especially the classical arts
• Personal values
• Material comfort
• Harmony and bonding to other people and animals

Along with the Descendant (7th house) and the Sun and Moon placements of both partners, their Venus and Mars placements are also important to study.

And then, of course, it’s wise to look at the synastry chart which shows how the two birth charts actually interact with each other. Synastry aspects are largely undiscussed in pop astrology, which mainly weighs up Sun sign compatibility alone.

Looking at the synastry aspects your two charts create is like examining your relationship (or potential relationship) under a microscope. These aspects provide a wealth of detailed information about how you interact with each other on a daily basis. They’re vitally important for understanding one’s relationship dynamic. And honestly, without looking at them, I’m not sure how people can fully get to grips with the mechanics of their connection.

I believe that all synastry aspects are important as they all have some bearing on how we’re inclined to behave in our relationships. However, some hold more weight that others. Venus, owing to the fact that it’s so strongly associated with love and romance, is one such planet. Another is Mars, which shows physical desire, drive and passion.

To summarise the important things to examine when assessing how to people relate to each other in a romantic context (not order of importance as all placings have plenty of information to impart):

• Descendant/7th house: The qualities we look for in a longterm partner
• Sun: Our core essence and overall life direction
• Moon: Our emotional profile and our true wants and needs
• Venus: How we give and receive love
• Mars: Our drive, desires, passion and physical action
• Synastry aspects: The different ways in which two birth charts combine

Important Note About Planet-House Overlays:

Planet overlays in houses can be a bit difficult to grasp. I struggled with them quite a lot when I find started learning about synastry. It took me a fair while to get the hang of them.

Essentially, the thing to bear in mind is that overlays work differently to “normal” planet synastry, e.g. Sun trine Moon, Venus square Mars etc. 

In this sort of synastry, when one person’s planet is positioned in a house in their partner’s chart, it activates the themes of that house, however, the planet keeps its own energy. The themes governed by the house their partner’s planet is in determines how the house person experiences their partner, including how they show love for them. The planet person doesn’t change.

For instance, with one person’s Venus in the other person’s 6th, the house person receives love as their partner performing acts of service and providing practical care. The 6th house individual receives love in that kind of practical, down to earth, everyday sort of way because that’s what the 6th is about.

Yes, I know…

Anyway, here we are. It took me an entire month to delineate these twelve overlays! But I enjoyed the writing. Since this type of synastry can be a bit more complicated to understand, please feel free to ask me any questions below.

Venus in the 1st House in Synastry: Love at First Presence

This is similar to Venus on the Ascendant in synastry.

Attraction here happens fast and it’s intense. Venus is drawn to the house person’s physical appearance, including what they’re wearing, their posture and their overall energy. The house person feels “seen” by their partner who appreciates them and the connection feels deeply personal. This synastric connection often means a sense of ease coupled with natural, effortless and light-hearted connection. However, in order to develop and thrive, the connection needs to venture beyond that initial, intense spark.

Benefits

Positive first impressions: This connection tends to start off on the right foot. Things just seem to flow smoothly without much effort, which, of course, is really nice. The Venus person enjoys making the house person feel special, which they are very open to, and in return, the house person feels free to show their affection without restraint. This is rare in a relationship that’s very new.

Instant attraction and mutual appreciation: The attraction is fast to develop, if not instant. And both are drawn to one another in equal measure. They really appreciate how they make each other feel and their presence and overall vibe. The house person enjoys showing off their graceful and pleasant partner to the world, and the Venus person enjoys being seen with their magnetic and vivacious partner. The Venus person’s calmness and affection is greatly appreciated by their house lover who can be more animated and intense; they feel as if they balance each other out. 

Mutual support of true passions: If the Venus person senses their lover is moving away from what they truly enjoy doing, they will gently encourage them to move in the direction of their hearts’ desire once more. In turn, the house partner makes their Venus partner feel more engaged with life and alive and stimulated.

Agreeableness: Since they share very similar tastes, they tend to agree on many things, including where to go and what to do. It’s unlikely you’ll witness this couple bickering over where to go on vacation or what restaurant to visit.  Their tastes tend to be refined, especially the older they both get and realize that life is too short to pretend they genuinely enjoy anything else. But it isn’t just similar taste that is shared in this synastric connection. They tend share the same outlook on life. People, places and situations are viewed in roughly the same way. 

And it’s precisely this agreeableness they share that may even override the influence of other, heavy synastry aspects in the chart. After all, if we genuinely get on with someone who shares our world view and generally likes the same things, people and places as us, it certainly makes things flow along well in life. 

I think of Marlene and Boycie from Only Fools and Horses, a British comedy series from the 90s, when I envisage this aspect in action. These two elevated each other’s image in the world via the impressive way in which they dressed and carried themselves. They were an intense 90s power couple and although they didn’t get on hugely well all of the time, they agreed on most things, shared very similar tastes and made the best of friends and allies.

Potential Challenges

Emphasis on appearance: The house person enjoys how physically “beautiful” or artistic their lover is. The Venus person enjoys the same but their partner’s personality also stands out a great deal and they find it uniquely captivating. Of course, looks are largely fleeting. Suppleness and beauty are strongly associated with youth and anyone over forty knows just how quickly one’s twenties and thirties race by. So, as crucial as mutual physical attraction is, especially in the beginning phase of a relationship, a really good friendship alongside a deep emotional bond is vital to the connection lasting and flourishing.

Approval is vital: Because they value each other’s opinions greatly, their ideals and preferences are so aligned, and they make each other feel good, a dependency on approval may form. It may not be present from the beginning, instead forming over time — creeping in, largely unnoticeable. It may manifest as the Venus person feeling responsible for maintaining harmony and the house person may often seek validation or reassurance. A lot of couples fall into this behavioural pattern and it can work okay for some. For others, especially those who wish to retain their own agency in a romantic relationship, more self-assurance is a better fit.

Unbalanced giving and receiving: Over time, the Venus person may feel under-appreciated in their attention and warmth. They may feel as if much of their love isn’t being reciprocated. From the house person’s perspective, they may feel overwhelmed by their partner’s affections but if they pull back too much, that might hurt them both. So, a push-pull, warm-cool dynamic could come about. Or someone could end up feeling very hurt if the connection isn’t giving them what feels right. Like everything in life, balance is needed. Giving too much might not be the best thing to do but feeling overwhelmed isn’t ideal either. Sharing how they feel with each other should help with this by balancing the giving and taking out to levels that feel comfortable for both parties.

My Personal Thoughts

As long as both partners are willing to explore the feelings beneath their physical attraction and mental compatibility, I think they should do very well. Again, there’s a great deal of agreeableness here which obviously helps to keep things light-hearted and moving along smoothly. I think we should all be so lucky to have a partner we can agree so much with! Just remember to keep the giving and the taking in check.

Venus in the 2nd House in Synastry: Love You Can Bank On

Please note that I’ve already written an article on this aspect, however, for ease of reference, as well as the completion of this Venus-houses article, I’ve included my interpretation of this aspect here too. Below is my most recent interpretation, which is similar to the one I wrote in 2025.

Without knowing that you can pay the mortgage and other bills and so on each and every month, stress can quickly pile high and trigger all kinds of arguments. The Venus person is very well aware of this and they want to take good care of their partner and create a stable domestic life for them both. This is, in part, what draws the house person, who needs to feel loved and materially secure, so close to their partner. They experience the connection as materially and emotionally sound. While the Venus person sets the tone for keeping things ship-shape financially, the house lover is more than happy to follow suit by working diligently and taking their commitment seriously.

Benefits 

A strong sense of stability and security: It’s not uncommon to feel rudderless in life. Many of us do and one of the main reasons we seek to become part of a couple is the stability it potentially brings; the emotional and social stability as well as financial stability (providing the other person is actually doing their bit and contributing). The house person feels this connection offers all of this as well as affection. After all, the Venus individual loves the idea of everything in life flowing smoothly and being joyous.

Classic values: There’s a somewhat old-fashioned vibe to this connection. And both the Venus person and the 2nd-house person (which is associated with tradition anyway) can sense it. 

I don’t necessarily mean that both are fans of traditional roles. Rather, they tend to adhere to unspoken (or perhaps sometimes spoken) old world values. This was always present in the Venus individual to a small degree but the house person enjoys receiving their partner’s love in a traditional (or old school) way. To clarify what I’m referring to regarding traditional values but not necessarily “trad” roles. For instance, total loyalty, perhaps not even ever flirting with others casually whilst in a relationship, and taking domestic duties seriously. 

And when I say they have traditional values, that doesn’t necessarily include being inclined toward marriage. Yes, of course plenty of couples do eventually marry but some of couples are simply happy to remain in monogamous long-term relationships.

An undeniably intensely sensual connection: Venus is about love, earthly pleasures and sensual experiences. You may also already know that the 2nd house stands for mostly the same. Planet Venus rules Taurus and Libra and the 2nd governs the sign of Taurus. So, this connection is infused with a inordinate amount of pleasure-seeking energy. Considering this, both partners tend to enjoy a very strong intimate life that’s overflowing with passion, games, fun, and truly enjoyable, intense times. The house person enjoys being touched and held by their partner while the Venus person thoroughly appreciates the sensuality of the connection.

Generous natures and shared resources: The old saying “what’s mine is mine, and what’s yours is yours” isn’t hugely applicable to this union. Both partners come into the relationship with a natural preference to share what they own with their significant other, resource wise. Building a lasting, secure unit does mean sharing things to a large extent, and while not everyone is able or willing to do this, (often for a whole host of understandable reasons), once the relationship progresses, they are still likely to do so.

Both are also naturally inclined to be generous with each other. The Venus person adores giving thoughtful, beautiful gifts and the house person loves receiving them and thinking of their own ways to give back. They especially enjoys seeing how their beloved reacts to their gifts.

Potential Challenges

Desiring material comfort too quickly: Since both partners are such great fans of comfort, there may a rush to gain as much material comfort as they can as soon as they can. The house person may enjoys watching their partner build a finically secure, comfortable lifestyle for them but neither are content to dilly-dally about it for too long. Overindulgence is a weakness of both partners and so the additional issue of “too much” may arise. I also doesn’t help that the Venus person might equate love with giving materially. I agree that it’s wonderful to live comfortably and to be surrounded by lots of nice things that enhance one’s life, but wanting too much too soon or overindulging in things can lead to all kinds problems. This could be something to watch out for.

Possessiveness or jealousy: The house lover is happy to be loyal and loving but also needs the freedom to do as they please. They don’t want their enjoyment of life to become stifled and they don’t necessarily wish to do everything with their partner. They may also worry or envy their significant other’s success and their ability to be so grounded and financially literate. The house person is, at heart, independent anyway so as the connection grows and each partner learns to trust one another, fears and worries should be set aside.

Essence of connection lost in materialism: It goes without saying that if we’re in a relationship but focus mostly on building wealth and buying things to increase our comfort level, romance may dwindle. Yes, we all need to work hard, and more than ever these days thanks to the cost of living crisis, but we don’t need to focus too heavily on attaining wealth. In addition to this, it’s so important that we try to enjoy what we do for a living. That’s arguably more important than working just to bring in money. The Venus person in particular  really does need to throughly enjoy their career in order to give their most to their relationship.

My Personal Thoughts 

I view this is a real-world relationship with teeth. It’s not fragile; it’s built to last. Neither partner wishes to invest copious amounts of time and effort in a union that isn’t quite right or doesn’t look like it’s likely to last the distance. The house person in particular enjoys the solid, down to earth and materially secure relationship. Though, both need to feel loved without applying too many expectations and pressure on each other.

Venus in the 3rd House in Synastry: The Pleasure of Being Understood

Things tend to flow smoothly in this relationship and a big part of that is thanks to how good, open and honest communication between them is. The Venus person is very interested in what their lover has to say; they want to hear their thoughts and listen to how they feel. They laugh and joke around together and the house person feels content in their light-hearted and uplifting union. Both make each other feel as if they’re being genuinely listened to.

Benefits

Virtually effortless communication and fun discussions: Lively, upbeat discussions are characteristic of this overlay. The Venus person is especially intelligent and articulate and their partner really likes and admires this about them. They also love their solid bank of general knowledge and how they enjoy sharing it with them. They make the most amazing conversationists. Light some candles, pour a couple of glasses of wine and the Venus person will entertain and delight their lover for hours with clever tales, genuinely funny jokes and titillating talk.

Being heard and understood: When we feel truly listened to and properly understood by our partner and vice versa, we feel as if we’re deeply connecting with one another. Both people in this union feel respected, valued and loved and that often also has the added benefit of creating a stronger, more satisfying intimate life together. 

Psychic link: Here, communication and mental connection isn’t just good or great, it may also be psychic with each partner feeling like the other just “gets” them before they’ve even spoken a word. They might just have to raise an eyebrow or sigh or give them a certain look and their partner understands what they’re thinking and feeling.

Boundaries are properly communicated: There’s a lot of talk about setting proper, fair boundaries up these days. And there’s good reason for it too; they are extremely important in our relationships with others. Not just romantic, of course. Relationships of all kinds: platonic, professional, familial, and of course, most definitely romantic. When our partner is aware of we are willing to accept and what we are not willing to accept, we remain feeling respected and properly treated so the union is more likely to last and do well.

Potential Challenges

A degree of restlessness: Although the house person feels engaged and mentally stimulated by their partner, they feel they tend to overthink and overanalyze and be mentally and physically restless. And the dynamic between them may become somewhat strained if they fall out of sync with each other’s natural rhythms. For instance, if the house person is content with cooking and watching movies most weekends, especially in the colder months but the Venus person needs to be doing something new each weekend, the house person may struggle to keep up with them.

Of course, as time goes by, if they decide to spend their time doing different things, they might become comfortable with this. As long as they spend quality time together often, things should remain in balance. Certainly, watching out for the line blurring between friendship and romance would be a good idea. The Venus partner definitely doesn’t ever wish to be seen as “just a friend”, or thinks their partner sees the grass on the other side of the fence as greener. That won’t do for them one bit! 

Thinking too much about things: Ah yes, the classic 3rd house issue of mulling over things… Here, the Venus individual may spend too much time thinking about the interactions they have with their partner. They could replay them in their mind over and over and wonder what they meant when they said certain things. This is the classic “what did she/he mean by that?”. As someone with Gemini Rising (the 3rd is linked to Gemini), I completely understand this. Analyzing conversations is a good thing in so far as to gain a better understanding of your partner and the shared dynamic but overthinking can waste time and cause unnecessary confusion. Instead of thinking things over and over, the Venus person might prefer to ask their lover some questions to help clear things up and keep things light-hearted.

Superficial connection and communication: While communication is clear, honest and open, it may be the case that superficial conversation is preferred by the house person. This may frustrate their partner who would ideally like affection to be felt beyond words. The house person may feel safer by discussing mostly surface level stuff in order to avoid examining certain things (and feelings) more deeply. This can prevent the relationship from developing and deepening. I think it’s a good idea to share deep thoughts and feelings. That way, a deep and lasting bond is more likely to emerge and be sustained. 

My Personal Thoughts

As long as this relationship doesn’t feel more like a friendship with added benefits, and communication remains open and honest and enough deep conversations are had, all should be well. The house person finds their partner really engaging and probably rather inspiring, too. Certainly they also view them as fun and upbeat company. They like their playful, buoyant energy so they like being around them. The secret here to longevity is both partners making an effort to spend quality time with one another, talk things through thoroughly, and share their innermost thoughts and feelings as often as they are comfortable with.

Venus in the 4th House in Synastry: Our Own Loving Sanctuary

This is, of course, similar to Venus on the IC (Imum Coeli) in synastry.

Of all the Venus-house placements this is probably the gentlest, sweetest, most sincere, heart-felt and heart-warming of them all. Certainly, it still has its pros and cons, but when this aspect is flowing smoothly, it indicates a wonderful, mutually fulfilling, comfortable, secure and thoroughly enjoyable domestic situation.

Benefits

An incredibly close bond and psychic understanding: Both are intuitive people by nature by the Venus person is especially intuitive and tuned into their partner’s inner world. They just know what they’re thinking and feeling without their partner having to say very much at all. As a result of their emotional closeness, their intimate life tends to be very passionate and intense. And aside from their romantic relationship, though, they also make excellent friends and allies, which is so important in this world. The house finds great comfort in knowing that their partner “has their back” in life through thick and thin, come rain or shine. They enjoy feeling emotionally cherished, supported and appreciated. This could be the type of relationship they have long been aspiring to experience.

Home life takes priority: The domestic life they share takes priority over work and other aspects of life. They may create a sort of private “bubble” of togetherness away from the outside world that feels really secure and comforting. They enjoy nurturing their relationship and spending copious amounts of time in the home they share and have very likely made very beautiful and welcoming together. 

Love and comfort all around: Their connection feels warm, private and comforting. They seem to easily, if not effortlessly, fit together. There’s a deep sense of belonging that may not have felt in any of their previous relationships. The Venus individual feel compelled to create an almost sanctuary like home for them both and the house person feels emotionally secure by this admirable desire of theirs.

Potential Challenges

Comfort may delay personal growth: More often than not, we grow by doing a lot of reflecting. And one of the biggest pushes for self reflection comes from heartache. This very much includes heartache from a deteriorating relationship, a relationship going through a rocky patch or the loss of a relationship. So, when all is flowing smoothly with our partner and we’re feeling content, loved and the spark is still there, we might not have much reason to look inward. Of course, heartache comes in numerous other ways so inner work may still be done… Plus, sometimes, we humans just need a good partner, a decent roof over our heads and kind, supportive people around us. Perhaps in another life we’ll experience more challenging lessons. Perhaps not.

Overattachment: Since the bond they share is so deep, they can become too intertwined emotionally. Even temporary separation such as one partner traveling for work, could be very difficult to swallow. Change may also prove challenging. The Venus partner may struggle to let go whenever it’s necessary, while the house person may fear loss or emotional withdrawal. I think this is something to look out for because if the relationship ever folds, it could make it all extra painful. The key to avoiding feeling this way (and it’s fairly common in relationships as most of us who truly love our partners wish to remain with them), is mutual grounding and inner growth.

Lingering family or emotional wounds: The 4th principally governs one’s home, family and roots. As such, some old wounds from the past could find themselves being excavated on both sides. In addition to this, the house person could consciously or unconsciously project family roles onto their partner. The Venus partner could find themselves pondering over past hurts caused by family. 

My Personal Thoughts

Something that I didn’t include earlier (I might go back and elaborate on this) is that this overlay has an older generational feel to it. It’s very likely that these two people feel remarkably comfortable with each other. 

I think it’s lovely that this overlay indicates such a closeness and that’s often what makes a relationship feel stable and positive throughout the years. Of course, being too reliant on each other for emotional support can inhibit their ability to self-soothe as individuals, which isn’t good for numerous reasons. But if feelings are in balance, this could be a wonderfully supportive, nurturing and long-lasting relationship.

Venus in the 5th House in Synastry: Intense Passion and Play

As with Venus in the 2nd, I’ve already written an extensive article on this aspect, however, for ease of reference, I’ve written about this aspect here as well. Below is my most recent interpretation, which is similar to the one I wrote in 2025.

This is the most light-hearted, playful and fun Venus-house overlay. The 5th is about play, romance, creative expression and planet Venus is about the same as well as harmony and ease. Taking this into account, it’s really no wonder why these two “click” so effortlessly; they essentially speak the same love language. And the result really is a whale of a time most of the time, but not all of the time because they’re both still human…

Benefits

Loyalty and devotion: The Venus person lavishes their partner with attention and affection and they also tend to be very tactile with their lover. The house person, while perhaps a bit more independent, loves that their partner is usually so warm-hearted, tender and caring towards them. There’s also a great deal of flirtatious energy between them and they enjoy playing and joking around with each other. In addition, thoughtful (and erotic) gifts are frequently exchanged to keep things fun and entertaining, and of course to express their love in that particular way, too. Both place loyalty at the top of their lists when it comes to qualities they desire in a partner, and here, they have it as they are devoted to one another. 

My aunt and uncle had this Venus-house overlay and the fun never stopped. They were forever joking around enthusiastically like teenagers and going on fun trips. They certainly had their ups and downs like all couples, but they rode the waves of their not-so-fun times very well, and sometimes even ended up joking about them.

Fun, laughter and loving: You would be hard-pressed to find a relationship with this overlay that isn’t joyful. It does swing occasionally from light-hearted to rather dramatic, but who doesn’t enjoy a bit of drama? This couple prefers to focus on the good things about life. Together, they like to go on adventures together, try new things, as well as meet new people. They prefer to look at life as a glass half-full and they share plenty of funny moments.

A sense of feeling special: Their upbeat, playful and romantic union carries a feeling of uniqueness and celebration. The house partner desires to feel special in their relationship and the Venus person absolutely makes them feel it! They throughly enjoy spoiling their significant other and making them feel adored. As a result, the house person feels chosen, admired, appreciated and respected. And they may be acutely aware of how unlikely it is for any relationship they get into to make them feel as unique and treasured.

Creative bond: Both are highly creative individuals. Whether they prefer to make music, illustrate, bake or build kitchen cabinets, they are just all-round creative types and they encourage each other to create whatever they wish. A domestic atmosphere of freedom of expression, beauty and love is the result. The house person enjoys shining through their creations.

Potential Challenges

Glossing over depth: With everything flowing so easily and lightly, there doesn’t seem to be much call for especially deep, exploratory discussions about true feelings, wants, needs, wounds and hurts. Pleasure tends to be prioritised. The Venus person may avoid heavy emotional discussions because they make them feel uncomfortable and could cause conflict and the house individual may desire deeper sharing. But the house partner can sometimes overshare or talk too much about surface level things, leaving the their partner feeling unfulfilled.

Reality second to romance: Passion is one thing but the slog of everyday life is another thing entirely. Idealized romance can hurtle over practical living and important concerns. The Venus person may be inclined to focus on fantasy, often placing their partner on a pedestal, rather than seeing them for who they really are. Or they could just become a bit clouded by constantly thinking about them (and their intense love life). The house person, meanwhile, could come to feel rather unseen for who they really are. They may also feel unsupported in day to day life.

To clarify what I’m referring to, take my aunt and uncle. Yes, they absolutely had fun, they were supportive and kind towards each other but sometimes, they got lost in romantic notions and everyday matters were set aside. There were times when things like budgeting, prepping for their parties, or doing household admin were set aside and took longer to complete because it felt nicer to stay in their romantic bubble.

Attention seeking: The 5th house is lined to the sign of Leo, the dramatic, intense, center-stage-loving lion. So, some drama in this connection is a given, really. Additionally, the Venus person may often seek admiration and applause because they thrive on loving and being loved but this may cause the house person to feel overshadowed or pressured to perform.

Jealously and or competition: Revisiting my aunt and uncle’s relationship, they were both charismatic, clever and charming, especially as a couple. But, as a result, they both received a great deal of flattery and attention from others over the years. This sometimes made them feel insecure and it also caused the occasional argument. The Venus person tends to like being on the receiving end of attention generally, from both men and women. Since the Venus person enjoys flattery from all round, that can trigger the house partner and make them feel unsure about their lover’s long-term intentions toward them.

My Personal Thoughts

There is something of an extravagant quality in this union. Both partners are keen on demonstrating their love for one another through many different means. And they seem to get along so well, not take difficult matters to heart for too long, and the chemistry here also tends to be through the roof as it’s so strong.

But it’s also good to occasionally focus on the heavy matters of life, too. If something is really bothering one of them, it really ought to be discussed properly, even if that involves creating friction or pain; that’s just a part of life. In addition, if and when their relationship goes through a tricky patch or something heavy happens, like a parent dying or a child being ill, fun and laughter must be set aside for trauma to be processed and/or for serious action to be taken.

Venus in the 6th House in Synastry: Practical and Respectful Loving

Relationships that strike a good balance between work and play tend to do well. All work and no play is no good, as is all play and no work. This overlay indicates more focus on work and practical matters than romance and play. With enough effort from both partners, it can work well and a balance can be struck between the nitty-gritty of life and romantic play.

Benefits

A stable, organized domestic life: The house person feels take care of and provided for their partner. The Venus person feels loving by working hard and staying organized. They like to be useful and attentive. The household is well run and they take pride in that and in creating a stale domestic life. The house person feels cared for in real world, practical ways. There’s a strong sense of teamwork and as a result, the relationship normally works very well on a daily basis.

Emotional honesty: A large part of any good romantic relationship involves opening up emotionally. The house person may initially find this challenging but slowly, slowly, the Venus person encourages their partner to communicate their true feelings by making them feel safe and supported to do so. The house person finds that their partner isn’t judgemental of them and is genuinely interested in what they feel and think. 

Low friction, low drama union: Here, there’s long-term compatibility potential thanks to how un-dramatic this connection is. Disagreements and arguments still occur as they’re still human, however, things tend to get sorted before spiralling out of control. This is thanks Venus individual’s strong predilection for harmony and ease and the house person deeply appreciating their partner, their positive qualities, and all that they bring to the table.

Mutual appreciation and respect: Usually, both treat each other with respect and consideration. This is a “classy” connection. You’d be hard-pressed to find a couple with this particular overlay hurling insults and socks at each other at 3am or bad-mouthing each other to friends and co-workers. They are image-conscious to some extent too, which further prevents them from making themselves and their significant other looking bad. The Venus person feels appreciated for all they do and the house person feels grateful for their dedication.

Shared interest in health and vitality: Both agree that all aspects of one’s health; emotional, mental and physical are important and should be given proper attention. Taking this into consideration, this couple tends to be fit all round. Others may notice this and very likely admire them for it. Their pleasant, healthful and vital image could even inspire others to take good care of themselves or find a partner who also takes their health as seriously. The Venus individual likes to show concern for their partner’s well-being and the house person feels supported in maintaining balance and health.

Potential Challenges

Imbalance of energies: The Venus individual may feel their connection is coming up short in playfulness and romance. They might be left longing for more overt displays of affection. The house person could become stuck in practical mode and worry about saying or doing the wrong thing and upsetting them. Or they might feel like they’re lacking somehow by not giving them enough of what they desire. The Venus individual could feel pressured to accept a more practical relationship. Their relationship is a stable one, nonetheless, but it’s still a far more practical one than is ideal for Venus. Depending on the maturity level of the people involved in this overlay, the house person could even become offended if their other half asks more of them from a romantic/emotional standpoint.

Nit-picking tendencies: Focusing on efficiency and small details is what the house partner tends to do rather than holding the bigger picture in mind. This can at times irritate their other half. They may spot and go on about the little things that annoy them; both generally and even occasionally about their lover. This could make the Venus person feel judged, criticised or as if they “aren’t doing it right”.

Glass half-empty perception: Too much focus may exist on what requires sorting out than what’s going well and right in their union. For instance, both may share a love of history and enjoy visiting old sites like castles together. In addition, the home they share may be absolutely beautiful but instead of focusing on those things, there may be preoccupied with they’re dissatisfied with. The house Venus may feel anxious about fixing and maintaining things between them while the house person may feel pressured to continually meet their partner’s standards and reciprocate their affection.

My Personal Thoughts

I admire the low-drama, stable, productive and mutually respectful energy of this relationship. As long as both partners can navigate to the same emotional page and focus on the things they enjoy about each other, they should find this union rewarding and emotionally fulfilling. The only thing I’ll dare to touch on is that the Venus person may desire more emotional expression from their partner. And the odd passionate argument probably wouldn’t go amiss either as a bit of drama can be quite arousing…

Venus in the 7th House in Synastry: A Partnership of Equals

This is similar to Venus on the Descendant in synastry.

This overlay carries a classy and romantic, loving vibe. It’s a balanced union where both partners meet eye to eye on so many important matters. Their personalities thoroughly compliment each other. Unlike other Venus-house overlays, there is an equal give and take, compromise happens when it’s needed and there’s a natural sense of ease and grace between them. Neither likes to confront or argue and the relationship has a strong sense of “togetherness”.

Benefits

Excellent practical and romantic compatibility: The house person is what the Venus person has been looking for. In their person, they find the sort of desirable qualities that can make a relationship feel truly fulfilling and stand the test of time.

Mutual gentleness and appreciation: Both wish for a harmonious love life. Neither party enjoys rocking the boat. When disagreements arise, they tend to be sorted rather quickly, with patience, care and consideration. There’s mutual respect so things like shouting or overreacting tend not to be commonplace on this union. Communication is open, honest as they value integrity in themselves and in their partner.

Shared love of beauty and the arts: Venus is bewitched anything they see beauty in, and that very much includes the arts; specifically, the classical arts. They may show their house partner love by creating various different things for them like artwork, dance performances or musical pieces. This makes the house person feel viewed as an ideal partner and thoroughly appreciated.

Long-term potential: A deep and meaningful bond over time is likely to form over time, and since they’re both loyal and loving toward each other, there’s excellent long-term potential here. The Venus person is drawn to proper partnership and cooperation and the house person really enjoys feeling properly respected and considered. 

Potential Challenges

Fear and insecurity: It’s pretty human to fear losing a good thing. Even if one believes in the law of attraction and possesses plenty of self-love and self-confidence, one is still human, and we humans are highly emotional and complex creatures. It’s also arguably (although this is a belief rather than a fact) difficult these days to find someone whom we’re deeply attracted to and genuinely compatible with. So, when we find a relationship such as this one, which very often falls into those categories, it’s understandable that some fear or insecurity comes with the idea of losing it somehow.

Idealisation: The Venus person may project their own perception of their partner onto them, without really seeing them as they are. There may also be an element of indecisiveness if they aren’t entirely happy with their house partner. In such a case, they may find themselves pondering “how do they compare to my exes?”, “do I really see myself with them in X amount of years?”, “how do my friends and family view them?”, and so on. It may take quite a long time to firmly conclude if they are “the one” or not. In addition, the Venus person may (consciously or not) find themselves compromising more, which can cause tension and a lingering sense that things aren’t fair. If this is the case, it would be best to address it sooner rather than later to prevent resentment from accumulating.

Difficulty in being alone: Venus doesn’t enjoy being alone for too long. Generally, they like to be around others but if they’re in a good relationship, they really don’t like being without their partner for long periods. They may fear losing them which can place (undue) pressure on their house lover who may grow to feel constrained.

Imbalance: The dynamic here can be push-pull if one party likes the other significantly more than the other. The house person may feel rushed to decide about committing to the Venus individual and/or may react negatively to too much attention. This surprises the Venus person who may be experiencing intense feelings for them and perhaps presumes they feel the same way about them.

My Personal Thoughts

If there are other aspects in the synastry chart which support their connection, this couple should do exceptionally well. If there are contra-indicators, then a rather push-pull dynamic may exist.

Venus in the 8th House in Synastry: Hearts Entwined in Shadow and Light

This connection is felt especially powerfully by both parties. The house person feels appreciated and seen by their partners intense love and unwavering sexual desire for them. They could feel emotionally (and perhaps also spiritually) awakened and transformed by their relationship. This is a very emotional and physical overlay that feels all-consuming early on. 

Benefits

Off the scale chemistry: The emotional and physical attraction really is mind-blowing. It’s intense and unyielding. But it isn’t crude or fast or fleeting. Oftentimes, it’s slow, gentle, emotional, delicate and deliberate. It includes vulnerability and is highly erotic. It’s really quite ideal for a long-term, straight forward romantic relationship. The Venus person may discover that they harbour some secret sexual desires or kinks that might either arouse, shock or offend their partner if they were to ever divulge them. They could also find themselves giving into the desires of their house partner, even if they normally wouldn’t with someone else. This is often positive in the context of trying new things.

Remarkable psychic connection: Both partners are intuitive but the house person is exceptionally so. Good intuition, if not outright psychic connection, is absolutely characteristic of this overlay. These two understand each other on a psychic level and are so attuned to each other’s frequencies that they needn’t say much in order to make themselves understood.

Powerful transformation: Growth is frequently brought about via emotional challenges. And often, the bigger the emotional challenge, the more substantial one’s growth. In this connection, the house person may experience the majority of change as their partner may act as the catalyst for it, however, the Venus individual may also feel changed via various emotional trials as well as any deep discussions that take place between them. The result is often that both parties, whether they remain together or not, are permanently and substantially changed (often for the better) owing to the trials and tribulations they endured while together (and/or upon breaking up).

Channeling Venus’ innermost darkness: Venus is, by all accounts, a light, airy planet. It isn’t heavy, dark, or even smouldering, unlike Mars or Pluto. However, this connection often tends to bring out any deeply buried thoughts and desires the Venus individual may have. I’m certainly not referring to anything necessarily dangerous. It’s more about the things they themselves consider taboo, dark, mysterious and so on. And, of course that’s highly subjective anyway. 

Emotional depth: Most relationships are emotionally deep, but not all. This connection brings out the deepest of emotions, whether fully shared or not, in both partners. The house person feels as if no one can understand them better than their significant other. They sense a uniquely intense energetic tie to their lover. Their union may cause feelings in each other to surface they never even knew existed. 

I’ll offer you a personal example of this: I had this connection with a previous partner. I had powerful and all-encompassing feelings towards him, the likes of which I’d never experienced before. Some of this would have been due to the fact that I was a teenager at the time so many things were new to me and of course there were hormones were flying around but still, my feelings for him were profound. The relationship didn’t work out but to this day, I can still recall how I was so moved by him, and how much those feelings changed me and taught me.

Potential Challenges

Secrecy and control: Secrecy is a form of control. The Venus person could keep things hidden to make sure they maintain some degree of it. They may feel that if they lay all of their cards out, they’ll be left exposed and vulnerable. So, they might keep things, including their feelings, to themselves, or bury or suppress things to protect themselves. The house person also keeps their cards close to their chest but dislikes feeling like things are being left unspoken. They may both be waiting until they know each other much better in order to reveal more of themselves. In some cases, the entire relationship may be conducted with some degree of secrecy.

Possessiveness: The Venus person feels extremely drawn to their lover, oftentimes excessively or compulsively. Like they just can’t get enough of them. The result could be that they want to keep them close, both literally and emotionally, as much as is humanly possible. Jealously can creep in if they notice their partner’s attention driving off elsewhere, even in a platonic way. 

Of course, this is very different to feeling “held”; to being embraced and truly loved and supported. This cannot really go down well with the house person. While they enjoy their partner’s attention (who doesn’t), they certainly don’t wish to feel stifled, which is characteristic of possession. That said, since the house person senses the intensity and depth of their lover, they find it difficult to resist giving in. 

Power struggles: The Venus individual may feel inclined to exert some power by attempting to influence their lover with their emotions. This can make the house person feel pressured or even manipulated. Power issues can create a push-pull kind of situation. If both partners can learn to fully trust one another, this sort of dynamic should dramatically decrease. This may very well occur with enough time and effort from both parties.

Painful disagreements: The house person can find the Venus person exceptionally intense and sensitive. The Venus person may view their partner at times as too vivacious and independent and that can unsettle them. Both feel very deeply about each other and so, when, inevitably, disagreements occur (as they do for us all), they can create a good deal of pain and inner turmoil.

Overwhelming degree of intensity: If not well managed, the depth of feeling between them may become overwhelming. The Venus individual could struggle quite a bit with emotional extremes while the house person may feel consumed by the sheer depth of what they feel for their partner, as well as what their partner feels for them. This connection is also indicative of obsession forming but this isn’t necessarily a bad thing if both feel genuinely secure with each other. It may also lose potency over time anyway.

My Personal Thoughts

There are no two ways about it; this is an intense and rather complicated connection. But it can absolutely be navigated. And the rewards for doing so are very big indeed. If this connection manifests as largely positive, it can be a truly, deeply life-changing relationship. It may be a thoroughly enjoyable and deeply profound and intuitive union. Both partners will be left feeling permanently altered no matter whether they stay together or go their separate ways.

Venus in the 9th House in Synastry: Hearts in Higher Places

Couples who share a similar outlook on the world typically start out well. This is that sort of union. Ideas and beliefs about politics, spirituality, as well as personal values and ethics are often very similar. Both like to have fun and learn all sorts of new things and go on really exciting adventures together. These two see eye to eye on a great deal in daily life and in addition to this, they often desire the same kind of lifestyle and future.

Benefits

Shared love of adventure: The house person finds the Venus individual exciting, if not thrilling. They also seem to evoke in them a strong sense of adventure that has long been lying dormant. They may have been aware of this thirst or it took them by surprise once their partner managed to bring it out in them. Travel, exploration, or new experiences deepen their already pretty strong connection. They delight in going on all kinds of trips together as well as trying out new things in their area or at home (very much including in the bedroom). Both feel alive and worldly through the fun times they share with their significant other.

Light-hearted and fun dynamic: Their dynamic, more often than not, is light-hearted and enjoyable. They’re interested in the same genres of movies, books and so on. It’s also very likely that they share hobbies and interests, which they often enjoy discussing. They like to discuss many different things together, from the mundane to the expansive. Things are learned by talking to each other and their general knowledge increases as a result. They could share a love for nature and enjoy spending lots of time outdoors which is often has a very relaxing effect on the mind and body.

Growing as one: Their journey together often feels like an evolving adventure. The Venus person fascinates their lover and inspires them to increase their awareness of the world around them and share their knowledge with others. They feel emotionally enriched by their shared path. The house person loves talking about and exploring all sort of concepts, including brand new ones, with their significant other. The result is often that both partners grow in how much they know about the things that interest them as well as personally and very likely, spiritually, too. And if they are both spiritually inclined or humanitarian, they may wish to try and improve the world around them somehow, as a team.

Personal truth is encouraged: This connection deeply supports and encourages authentic expression. The house person feels safe expressing what they believe because their partner actively encourages them to speak their mind. And in turn, the house individual feels validated in their own truths because their Venusian significant other is so supportive of it, even if they disagree with them on some points.

Potential Challenges

Growth that feels out of sync: The house person likes the pace at which their partner seems to be growing but they might struggle to keep up with it. While many ideas and philosophies are shared, it could be a bit too much at times. Their focus may be more on the day to day grind than on expanding their awareness too quickly. The house individual experiences their relationship as uplifting and inspiring but may also experience moments of frustration when their personal growth feels out of alignment with their partner’s. This is a bit complicated and delicate so I’ll offer you an example. The Venus person could decide to begin studying a new spiritual concept and their partner really enjoys the shared excitement and feels inspired by what their partner is learning, however, the pace or focus in life differs from their own, creating some tension and or the need for compromise. 

Different styles of emotional connection: The house person would perhaps like to experience more conversations with their house partner about the feelings they have for each other. They might also wish for their partner to be more affectionate with them. While they admire their zest for life and how clever and optimistic they are, a more emotional connection could be missing. The Venus person may resist getting too close for fear of being tied down too tightly but they’re also prone to intellectualising their feelings. So, this dynamic can be complicated and it can be challenging to get very close emotionally.

Getting lost in idealism or other interests: Both can be idealistic and become absorbed in various different things, however, the Venus individual is more prone to this. They can focus on ideals, possibilities and exciting experiences more than on intimate connection. The house person may feel temporarily neglected by how distracted they can get. They might feel as if the love they share with their partner is exciting and expansive in theory but sometimes inconsistent in day to day life. That said, both have a real zest for life and so effort is required on both sides to come together to create and maintain a deeply emotional, meaningful connection. 

Differences in beliefs: Does either party hold a strong set of beliefs? Here, there can be a bit of a clash if either one isn’t, by any chance, very open to exploring new beliefs. The house individual could feel conflicted if their partner’s beliefs clash with their own. And as much as they relish the company of their lover, they may occasionally feel rather strained or even pushed by their different values, viewpoints and ethics. In some more extreme cases, they may sometimes feel as if their other half’s beliefs are being imposed upon them and that if they don’t agree with them, friction can arise. 

The Venus person, as much as they’d like to talk more about the philosophical or spiritual concepts they’re excited about might find themselves holding back a bit. They may feel challenged if their beliefs differ too much. That said, they could also try to gently inspire or guide their lover toward a certain perspective of theirs if it means a great deal to them.

My Personal Thoughts

There’s no doubt about it, this combination is a positive and fun one. Many excellent times are shared, many wonderful memories are created and many interesting and expansive things are shared and learned. But the union can teeter on the brink of “friends only” at times as there’s some difficulty in staying emotionally, and therefore, romantically present. One or both partners may feel emotionally neglected because of this.

But don’t despair. I think this may be remedied by spending plenty of quality time together with a focus on exploring each other’s emotions and enjoying meaningful intimacy. All relationships require some degree of work and compromise to do well and continue and this synastric connection indicates a promising foundation so it really just needs to be built on and maintained.

Venus in the 10th House in Synastry: Love Built on Achievement

This is, of course, similar to Venus on the Midheaven (Medium Coeli or MC) in synastry.

It’s sadly sometimes the case that a partner isn’t hugely supportive of their lover’s professional goals. Even if they’ve worked their fingers to the proverbial bone to achieve their dreams, this may still not be fully acknowledged and appreciated by them. That is not the case with this overlay. This connection indicates a mutually appreciative and supportive relationship. Ambitious dreams are actively encouraged and both support each other in their realization. One of the main drawbacks of this, however, is that the relationship can feel a little too emotionally cool and perhaps even formal.

Benefits

Genuine admiration and respect: It feels really satisfying when our professional achievements are genuinely “seen”, admired and appreciated by our partner. And that’s characteristic of this connection. The Venus individual is genuinely impressed by their partner’s accomplishments, reputation and lifestyle. They admire, and perhaps even feel inspired, to achieve something similar themselves. They view their partner as a remarkable person; as someone who is worth getting close to. The house person loves that they’ve finally found someone who deeply appreciates their strengths and achievements. There’s a natural sense of esteem and honour here. Both parties feel so proud to be connected to each other. They might feel like a really stable and mutually supportive power-couple, guiding each other to greater things, always.

Mutual inspiration: Whatever background or career either of them follows, they just seem to inspire one another. They could be totally different. For instance, one of them could work in healthcare and the other in fine art. The Venus individual draws energy from their lover’s dedication, resilience and the achievements they already have. They make them feel motivated and uplifted. The house person feels inspired by their partner’s affectionate encouragement and knows they can share their goals with them and not be laughed are or belittled. Rather, they know they will be cheered on and supported.

Socially charming: In both personal and professional situations, the Venus person can be especially charming, graceful and calm. They can help to build the reputation of their partner as well as facilitate formal transactions. The house individual feels very proud of how well they are received socially as a couple and all the Venus partner does for them to help elevate their professional standing. This connection tends to improve networking, social opportunities. It’s the kind of connection that makes both people feel seriously empowered as a couple.

Potential Challenges 

Emotional coolness: Yes, of course, it’s wonderful to feel appreciated and  supported and successful but in a romantic relationship, most people require emotional warmth and genuine, frequent connection, including physical touch. Honestly, this may be somewhat lacking in this overlay. But it isn’t that either party isn’t capable of romance. Absolutely not. It just may not come naturally or be a big priority. I think that both partners would do well to consciously part their professional and personal lives in order to maintain intimacy.

Issues with boundaries and jealousy: It’s nice that both support each other with their work but Venus could push them a little too much at times. They may also insist on getting involved with whatever they’re doing which can feel both supportive and intrusive and inappropriate all at once! Both partners would probably benefit hugely if they kept their professional and personal lives separate, only offering each other support and encouragement rather than just being a bit too much. Another important point is that if one partner really accelerates in their career and begins to drastically out earn their other half, some jealousy may surface. This is unlikely to happen the older or more secure people become but it’s a rather common theme in young couples who are just starting out in life.

Too great a focus on image: Looking good can help with feeling good and having a partner by our side who helps to boost our image is fabulous. However, the house individual might sense at some point during the relationship that their partner values appearances or reputation a bit too much. Love might therefore feel a tad shaky, as in, contingent on achievements and or how well the two are perceived by others. This can generate pressure within the union to maintain a certain image. Rather, the focus should be on creating and maintaining a close, meaningful emotional connection.

My Personal Thoughts 

I think this is a fabulous overlay for those who want a partner who is more than willing to support their professional ambitions. But it can lack in warmth and closeness, which can be problematic in the long run. As humans, we do need emotional honesty and romance if our romantic relationships are to survive and thrive. If an emotionally close connection can be maintained then both will find that they can achieve a great deal in their professional and social lives as a couple. I see this overlay as especially positive for a healthy household income which (hopefully) means fewer disagreements over finances along with an active, fun and fulfilling shared social life.

Venus in the 11th House in Synastry: Friendship First

At the very core of this connection, there’s an unwavering friendship and mutual understanding. And, I suppose that ultimately, that’s what we all need in a longterm relationship or marriage; a rock-solid friend who understands you, has your back no matter what, and doesn’t overreact to things. And while this union can feel a little emotionally distant at times, that can absolutely be worked on, like most challenging aspects in a relationship.

Benefits

Remarkably strong friendship: There’s an unusual ease and acceptance between these two, pretty much from the outset. Normally, it takes a while to get to know someone and feel comfortable around them but this feels like an upbeat friendship almost off the bat. Ideally, this is what we should all have as we’d all benefit from having a live-in bestie. A strong friendship means that both people value each other, care for each other and genuinely enjoy each other’s company! They want to spend time together, look forward to being together when they’re apart, and lift each other’s mood and support each other. It’s a great thing to experience.

A grounded, logical love story: Both possess an even temperament in this connection together. Therefore, when issues arise — which they will as they do for all couples — they are dealt with carefully and logically. There’s a feeling that things are down to earth in this connection. There’s very little drama. 

Social harmony: Since both partners really enjoy each other’s company, they’ll very likely find it easy to blend with others. Venus likes to show their partner care and love by introducing their partner to their friends and new people who they think they’ll get on well with.

Potential Challenges

Emotional distance: The Venus individual prefers to keep things light and cerebral. Of course, a romantic connection, if it is to do well, needs a fair amount of emotional exchange. The house person may find themselves wanting to connect more deeply with their lover and may feel that their connection lacks intensity and passion. This relationship can subsequently feel more like two best friends rather than a romantic relationship if romance isn’t consciously consistently nurtured.

Friends taking priority: The rather harsh and worrying reality with this overlay is that the Venus person might devote a lot more time and energy (and even money) to their friends, professional networks, causes and or communities than to their lover. Understandably, their partner may become very disheartened by this and feel left out in the cold. Making a conscious effort to balance out personal intimacy with social life is especially important in this union.

Differing visions of the future: One of the first things people talk about before entering into a committed relationship is what they would like their futures to look like. In this connection, this really ought to be discussed early on as respective futures may vary quite a lot. The Venus partner is prone to idealising various different hopes and dreams for their future and in cases, they may not be entirely realistic. They may also not align well with the house partner’s preferred direction. As a result, the house person may feel pressured to adapt their future wants to click with their lover’s. But it’s not that the Venus person is wholly inflexible. Not at all, however, some compromise may be required.

My Personal Thoughts

As long as there are other aspects in the synastry chart that indicate emotional warmth and affection (which there very likely will be), this is a very positive connection overall. As I mentioned earlier, the majority of wish for a very good friendship to ultimately develop. Finally, at the age of forty, I’ve realized that this is indeed the backbone of most relationships that are happy and last the test of time.

Venus in the 12th House in Synastry: Transcending Words

Venus may bewitch the house person with their enchanting personality and appearance but they probably won’t mind that at all. This connection isn’t overt, though. It involves a very powerful yet very quiet sort of seduction, which is rather unusual in the grand scheme of things. It carries a magical fairytale sort of vibration.

The Venus person brings compassion, kindness, softness, love and even adoration. The house person may never have experienced a relationship with such a gentle, sweet and kind Soul.

Both are silently conscious of a fantasy-like aura around them but it would probably serve them well to guard against becoming too lost in each other’s worlds — or their own for that matter. And it would also be wise to remove any rose-tinted glasses through with they may view one another. 

Benefits

Spiritual feeling connection: The first thing to make clear about this relationship is thatthere is an unspoken mutual understanding and overall vibe that feels otherworldly. Indeed, if you believe in reincarnation, it may very well be the case that they’ve lived on other worlds that feel more magical in comparison to Earth before. 

The ESP bond between them is rather obvious, often from the outset. It often proves to be reliable, too. Both feel compelled to open up to the other and share deep feelings, thoughts and desires of all kinds. 

They feel safe and at ease with each knowing that because of the gentle, emotional and meaningful bond they share, they can safely discuss all they wish with their partner and they won’t be judged or criticised for it.

Profound compassion: Often, there is deep empathy and forgiveness in this connection. Both partners are actually happy with each other and genuinely care about each other. The Venus person shows great compassion and gentle love for their partner. They are empathetic and often show forgiveness. Sometimes, it can feel as if their love in unconditional, especially when their partner is especially upset or triggered about something. The house person feels truly understood, care-for and supported. They find their relationship deeply comforting. Almost as if they’re with a gentle warrior or otherworldly guardian.

Healing via love and understanding: A safe, emotionally mature space is created for the house person to vent and discuss any past hurts with their other half, who is truly capable of understanding them. By just airing their their issues, they begin to feel better about the things that are weighing on them. 

They also feel safe to talk about any hidden feelings, fears and insecurities they may have been pushing down. With this connection, there’s often. Feeling that it was meant to be. It could be that such a connection was pre-planned in Spirit to help both parties but especially the house person, to clear away old karma, past life energies as well as various issues from this current life.

Potential Challenges

Misunderstood emotions and intentions: Venus may be inclined to express their love for their other half in subtle, indirect ways. And it could also be oddly inconsistent, creating a push-pull kind of dynamic. The house person may at times be left feeling like they don’t really know what their partner is feeling towards them or what they truly need and want from their connection. Boundary issues may additionally crop up as the lines between them emotionally are prone to blurring. Venus possesses a self-sacrificing nature and the house person can occasionally feel overwhelmed by their attention. Resilient and clear boundaries may be necessary to set up as soon as it feels appropriate to do so.

Hidden or unspoken feelings: As loving and gentle as the Venus person is, at times, they may find it very challenging to express their true feelings directly. They may worry that they won’t be well received. Or perhaps they just struggle to find the exact words to tell their partner how they’re feeling or what they truly think deep down.

Idealism coupled with escapism: I think it’s important for us all to see our partner for who they really are, underneath whatever exterior is being projected. The Venus individual here can battle with that. They may idealize their lover and part of that means overlooking their flaws. As a result, the house person could feel like they’ve been placed on an impossible pedestal or they’re just quite misunderstood. The illusion could be shattered once reality inevitably becomes apparent.

My Personal Thoughts

I view the magical, mystical undertone of this connection as beautiful and rare. For some people, this sort of connection is right up their street and possibly what they’ve been waiting for. It may indeed be a fated connection but regardless, it certainly feels as if it is. 

Awareness matters a great deal here. If the Venus partner is finding it tricky to express themselves too openly or directly, their partner can surely help. And as long the boundaries between them stay clear and firm, they should forge a relationship that’s wonderfully otherworldly.

Sources:

1. Goodman, Linda (1998). Relationship Signs. Bantam Books: New York.

2. Sasportas, Howard (1985). The Twelve Houses. London: The Aquarian Press.

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