Black Moon Lilith in 6th House: The Dark Feminine at Work

Those with Lilith in the 6th tend to face issues in the areas of life that are associated with this house. These areas are mainly work and service as this house is commonly referred to by astrologers as the house of work, or the house of service.

Work and Employment

In some cases, their lives are absolutely overrun with work. The majority of their time is spent at work and when they aren’t they’re probably thinking about work related matters. They may also be fixated on the idea of climbing the proverbial ladder, and often thinking of ways and means to do it.

Of course, this type of behavior is relatively common in young people, no matter what’s in their chart. They need to work hard to establish themselves professionally and set themselves up for a good life. However, these people often wish to do exceptionally well. Comfort, happiness and security may not be possible for them until they’re sufficiently financially well offer, and what that means will, of course, vary from person to person.

Behind the workaholic facade, they may have been bullied when they were younger or told by a relative that they were unlikely to succeed. Sayings like “life is tough”, and “money doesn’t grow on trees” may have been ingrained in them by their relatives. and in order to do well, one must work exceptionally hard. So they work very hard in order to prove wrong everyone who doubted them and felt were holding them back.

Others with this placement could couch potatoes, shirking almost every responsibility, much to the dismay of their family. Their responsibilities may be neglected for numerous reasons including not liking the idea of working for “the man”and disagreeing with the premise of capitalism. In other cases, they may not be able to find the kind work they want or which pays a fair wage.

Some of these people may feel that they can’t “get it together” to be productive enough and this greatly frustrates them.

Some could feel very dissatisfied with their job but stuck in it for various reasons and unable to find anything better. Anxiety or other health concerns may prevent them from keeping a good job. They may feel like their precious time is being wasted and that they could do better if only they could find a job that they feel is more dignified and worthy of their intellect, skills and talents.

There also seems to be an issue with balancing their work with their personal life. We all need to work but equally, we need to rest and enjoy ourselves. If a proper balance isn’t struck, overall life satisfaction could be impacted. Too much work is no good, as is too much time off.

There may be some difficulty in delegating tasks if they can’t let go.

Service to Others and Responsibilities

The need to serve is vital. Some of these people feel they might exist to facilitate the needs of others without much joy, relaxation, or leisure time of their own.

They might go overboard and exhaust themselves tending to other people. This placement tends to create the ultimate people pleasers. They don’t have to be close to these people, either. Some of them bend over backwards to help neighbors, colleagues, even strangers. They usually make sure tone polite and duteous and expect the same in return, but may not receive it often enough.

Through their intense and unyielding service to others, they often seem to neglect their own needs. They may feel that their help is often undervalued. It may also not be reciprocated as much as they would like. A friend of mine with Lilith in Virgo in the 6th frequently puts herself out for others. Once, she spent the best part of a day clearing up her neighbors yard after a storm. A few months later, she asked them to watch her gentle dachshund for an afternoon while she was at work as he was sick and they refused.

Some people with this placement might find it hard to accept help from others though, even if they are very helpful and generous with their own time. This could be down to being raised to give a lot but not necessarily expect too much in return. My grandmother was raised in such a manner. In the early 1900s, women were expected to be the perfect mother and wife which often involved giving all of their time, energy, affection and attention to others and not expecting the same amount in return.

Trivial Matters and Solving Problems

Dealing with small matters can feel overwhelming here. Plenty of time if usually necessary to go away, think the situation over thoroughly and then arrive at a conclusion. Seeing as real time communication may not be their strong suit, they could choose to deal with matters through e-mails or formal letters. If they have to speak to others over the phone or face-to-face, they tend to stick to the facts and say as little as possible to avoid worsening the situation.

In some cases, they may be terrified of confrontation and fear dealing with issues, however small or large. They might choose to avoid talking too much to people they don’t known well in order to avoid having to deal with difficulties. This could impact their ability to forge new connections and friendships. They neighbors and people in their local community might not even know them particularly well if they keep themselves to themselves too much.

Daily Routine

Following the same routine every day could be perfect for many of these individuals. They might feel lost without following one. It also saves them time because they know what exactly their day will look like. Time doesn’t have to be wasted planning their next move.

In other cases, adhering the same routine each day feels extremely tedious. They need variation to feel fulfilled but that can mean spending too much time thinking about what to do next.

Self Improvement and Perfectionism

In their quest for perfection in every aspect of their life, these people may often throw the baby out with the bathwater, so to speak. They can be their own worst critic and are often tremendously hard on themselves.

To use a personal example, the friend I mentioned earlier was a talented artist but her paintings had to be absolutely perfect. Even if she was close to finishing one after months of work, she would throw it out upon making a tiny mistake.

Oftentimes, I couldn’t spot the mistake, even if she pointed out to me, because it was so small. The same applied to her makeup. If she made a mistake, however minute and inconspicuous, she would wash her face and start all over again instead of just re-doing the area she wasn’t happy with.

Find find fault with things and complaining tends to be common here, although there may be plenty of things to complain about. Their tolerance

Well-being

They could be fanatical about their personal wellbeing including their hygiene.

On the other hand, they could neglect their well-being, self-care and personal hygiene to the point where they usually appear dishevelled. This often seems to occur with people who don’t feel too confident within themselves and feel like no one would notice them regardless of what they looked like.

About the Black Moon Lilith in Astrology

Black Moon Lilith is by the far the most widely recognized Lilith and the one most people automatically assume is. The house it’s in indicates the areas of life where we might struggle. If we can overcome those struggles, we can really turn things around and actually shine brightly in those areas, instead!